It's selfish. Plain and simple. You don't want the inconvenience of caring for the child for nine months, even if someone else would LOVE to have the "inconvenience" of raising the child for the next eighteen to twenty-one years and continuing to provide love and support for the rest of their lives. Holy shit, even I can tell that the expenses of pregnancy; financially, emotionally, and physically; would NEVER equal the expenses of raising that child. Why not give up an unwanted child for adoption? So many people out there WANT your unwanted child.
You say it's a choice. I say it's not.
It's not a choice for many young women, not when I hear teenagers talking and the girl is pregnant and the boy says, "If you love me, you'll get an abortion." Not when parents shame their daughter into an abortion they'll never hear about, because they never bothered to raise her in an environment where she's not afraid to tell her parents about something that maybe they won't approve of, but can do so knowing they'll still support and love her no matter what she decides. It's not a choice when everyone expects a rape victim to want an abortion or emergency contraception. It's not a choice when you all but have to have an abortion or else you may never finish school because of a one-night stand where your birth control failed.
I'd never get an abortion to make a boy "love" me. I'd never get an abortion because I can tell my mother that I messed up and now I'm pregnant and she will do whatever she can to help me bring that child into this world and decide on what would be best for that child's future. I'd never have an abortion because I know I'd be able to finish school because I know I have the support of my family even when I do something that goes against their values.
Most importantly, I HAVE been raped and I DID get pregnant, and I sure as HELL didn't get an abortion, because it wasn't that poor child's fault their father was a disgusting dredge of human existence.
That wasn't emotional rape. That wasn't anything horrible. I sure as Hell didn't feel like a "brood mare" or whatever the latest fashionable term for a woman pregnant against their will is.
The emotional rape is when people like you post about how a pregnancy from rape is just added trauma for every woman. It's when people say that no woman would want to carry her rapist's child. That's the part that fucking hurts. That's the part that makes me wonder if someone would say it must not have really been rape, seeing as I didn't get an abortion, because heaven knows some people have got to blame the victim SOMEHOW. That's the thing that keeps me from moving on, the mere fact that people, people such as yourself, can't say "most women" or "a great deal of women", phrases that acknowledge that there are those of us out there who wouldn't abort a child conceived by rape.
Of course, I may just be too fucking logical for all this bullshit. I mean, I disagree with abortion for scientific reasons. I don't freak out when a male doctor has to do a physical that involves my chest and my vagina, despite being raped. I have no problems with trusting men, because I realise not all men are that vile. It stands to reason that I wouldn't punish an innocent for the crimes of another.
Either that, or I'm not a woman, despite what my reproductive organs and chromosomes would lead me and others to believe.
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Just so you know, you've done a bit more than just TOUCH a nerve Pt 2/2
Date: 19 October 2008 00:15 (UTC)You say it's a choice. I say it's not.
It's not a choice for many young women, not when I hear teenagers talking and the girl is pregnant and the boy says, "If you love me, you'll get an abortion." Not when parents shame their daughter into an abortion they'll never hear about, because they never bothered to raise her in an environment where she's not afraid to tell her parents about something that maybe they won't approve of, but can do so knowing they'll still support and love her no matter what she decides. It's not a choice when everyone expects a rape victim to want an abortion or emergency contraception. It's not a choice when you all but have to have an abortion or else you may never finish school because of a one-night stand where your birth control failed.
I'd never get an abortion to make a boy "love" me. I'd never get an abortion because I can tell my mother that I messed up and now I'm pregnant and she will do whatever she can to help me bring that child into this world and decide on what would be best for that child's future. I'd never have an abortion because I know I'd be able to finish school because I know I have the support of my family even when I do something that goes against their values.
Most importantly, I HAVE been raped and I DID get pregnant, and I sure as HELL didn't get an abortion, because it wasn't that poor child's fault their father was a disgusting dredge of human existence.
That wasn't emotional rape. That wasn't anything horrible. I sure as Hell didn't feel like a "brood mare" or whatever the latest fashionable term for a woman pregnant against their will is.
The emotional rape is when people like you post about how a pregnancy from rape is just added trauma for every woman. It's when people say that no woman would want to carry her rapist's child. That's the part that fucking hurts. That's the part that makes me wonder if someone would say it must not have really been rape, seeing as I didn't get an abortion, because heaven knows some people have got to blame the victim SOMEHOW. That's the thing that keeps me from moving on, the mere fact that people, people such as yourself, can't say "most women" or "a great deal of women", phrases that acknowledge that there are those of us out there who wouldn't abort a child conceived by rape.
Of course, I may just be too fucking logical for all this bullshit. I mean, I disagree with abortion for scientific reasons. I don't freak out when a male doctor has to do a physical that involves my chest and my vagina, despite being raped. I have no problems with trusting men, because I realise not all men are that vile. It stands to reason that I wouldn't punish an innocent for the crimes of another.
Either that, or I'm not a woman, despite what my reproductive organs and chromosomes would lead me and others to believe.